The Role of Etiquette in Chinese culture (5)- Subtlety

Besides a general cultural preference for subtlety, it plays an important role for etiquette. In particular, it features heavily in communications but also relates to the concept of humility, which is a virtue as deemed by Confucianism. 

In terms of communications, there are a lot of things left unsaid or implied. Double entendres are a more prominent component in Chinese compared to, say, English. Chinese people also devise ways to soften a “no” for whatever reasons that an English speaker isn’t restricted by. 

As for humility, Chinese tend to not react to a compliment with a “Thank you” but rather a type of “You must be mistaken” comment.

Of course, subtlety goes way deeper than this, such as me always being hitched up about subtlety when I write fiction. But in terms of subtlety and etiquette, I think I have provided the broad sketch. Let me know via comments if you want to discuss anything in further details. 

Published by moonlakeku

intermediate Chinese fantasy writer working on her debut series

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